Home - Self Care School https://www.selfcareschool.org Fri, 15 Dec 2023 23:57:32 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 How to Create Space in Your Life https://www.selfcareschool.org/how-to-create-space-in-your-life/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-to-create-space-in-your-life https://www.selfcareschool.org/how-to-create-space-in-your-life/#comments Mon, 02 Oct 2023 21:57:42 +0000 https://selfcareschool.org/?p=564 When I talk about S P A C E, I’m talking about more than physical space, although that’s part of it. I’m also talking about freedom and autonomy – sort of the space to be able to make your own choices. It’s also linked with time: do you have enough space to create your day...

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When I talk about S P A C E, I’m talking about more than physical space, although that’s part of it. I’m also talking about freedom and autonomy – sort of the space to be able to make your own choices. It’s also linked with time: do you have enough space to create your day or is the schedule so chaotic that you feel more like that days kind of just drag you along. Because if you feel blocked in any of those ways, we need to create space because that’s what’s needed to keep expanding.

1. Physical Space: Simplify and Declutter

Start Small: Begin with a single drawer or shelf. Decluttering doesn’t mean throwing everything away; it means removing what’s unnecessary. Keep what you love and need, and consider donating or recycling what you don’t. Throw stuff away if you need to. I understand all too well the issues with waste and the environment, but we live in an extremely capitalistic society where items truly do accumulate just through living a normal every day life. You can’t harm your own life over guilt about this, it will never catch up with itself. It’s not your fault that it’s like this.

Designate ‘No-Clutter Zones’: Dedicate specific areas in your home that will always remain clutter-free. Over time, expand these zones. When you get used to seeing these areas being very clean, you’ll train yourself and everyone else in your home to keep them that way.

Embrace Minimalism (If It Suits You): You don’t need to own only two shirts and a mug, but consider the value and purpose of each item. Do they serve a function or bring joy?

2. Mental Space: Clearing The Mind

Daily Meditation: Just 5-10 minutes of focused breathing can center your mind, reduce stress, and increase clarity. There’s no right or wrong method—just find what resonates with you.

Limit Information Intake: News, social media, and constant notifications can overload the brain. Designate specific times for checking these and take periodic breaks.

Journaling: Put pen to paper and let your thoughts flow. This simple act can offer clarity, healing, and a sense of release.

3. Boundaries in Relationships: Know Your Limits

Communicate Clearly: It’s okay to say no. If something doesn’t align with your values, needs, or energy levels, articulate that with kindness and assertiveness.

Evaluate Your Circles: Surround yourself with people who respect your boundaries and lift you up. Sometimes, creating space may mean distancing from negative or draining influences.

Invest in Yourself: Having alone time isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. Dedicate time for self-care and personal growth. It makes you a better friend, partner, and family member.

4. Time: The Invisible Space

Prioritize: Not everything that screams for your attention is important. Know your priorities. It’s better to do a few things well than many things halfway.

Batch Tasks: Group similar tasks together. This reduces the mental load of switching between activities and can make you more efficient.

Schedule Breaks: Just as important as work is rest. Schedule short breaks during the day and longer ones during the week to rejuvenate.

Limit Multitasking: It might seem efficient, but our brains aren’t wired to handle multiple tasks well. Focus on one thing at a time.

In essence, creating space in your life is an ongoing journey. It’s about making intentional choices that serve your well-being and happiness. Remember, the aim isn’t to create voids but to make room for what truly matters. With every drawer you declutter, thought you release, boundary you set, and minute you prioritize, you’re making space for peace, joy, and growth. Embrace the journey, one step at a time.

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How to Be More Productive (at the right things) https://www.selfcareschool.org/productive/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=productive https://www.selfcareschool.org/productive/#respond Sun, 01 Oct 2023 21:57:32 +0000 https://selfcareschool.org/?p=575 One of the worst feelings is to reach the end of the day feeling like you gave it your all but unable to really define what you got done. Productivity is not just about doing more—it’s about doing the right things. But how do you know what’s really important and what’s merely a distraction? It’s...

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One of the worst feelings is to reach the end of the day feeling like you gave it your all but unable to really define what you got done.

Productivity is not just about doing more—it’s about doing the right things. But how do you know what’s really important and what’s merely a distraction?

It’s all about alignment, prioritization, and clarity. Today, we’ll break down how you can be more productive, ensuring that you’re investing your time and energy in tasks and activities that truly resonate with your values.

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1. Define Your Values

What’s Important to You?

Before you can dive into tasks and to-dos, it’s vital to take a step back and define your values. Ask yourself:

  • What truly matters to me?
  • What principles and beliefs guide my decisions?
  • What are my long-term goals and aspirations?

By pinpointing what’s essential in your life, you can better understand where to direct your focus. This foundational step is crucial. When you’re clear about your values, it becomes easier to align your tasks with what you genuinely want to achieve.

2. Learn How to Prioritize: Big Rocks and Small Rocks Lesson

Understanding the Hierarchy of Importance

Imagine your day as a jar. The tasks and responsibilities you have are a combination of big rocks (major tasks) and small rocks (minor tasks). If you start your day by filling the jar with small rocks, there won’t be enough room for the big ones.

The key is to first place the big rocks, your most significant and essential tasks, in the jar. Once they’re settled, you can then fill in the gaps with the smaller rocks. This approach ensures you tackle the most critical tasks first, without getting lost in the minutiae of smaller ones.

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3. Meditate for Mental Clarity

Finding Peace Amidst the Chaos

The constant hum of daily life, notifications, and information overload can clutter your mind, making it challenging to focus on tasks at hand. Meditation offers a refreshing mental reset.

By meditating, even if just for a few minutes each day, you can:

  • Clear your mind of distractions.
  • Enhance your focus on the present moment.
  • Cultivate mindfulness, making you more aware of where your attention drifts.

The clearer and more focused your mind, the better you can discern which tasks deserve your energy and which do not.

4. Become a Master of Saying No to the Wrong Things

Protect Your Time and Energy

Every “yes” is a commitment of your time, energy, and resources. Before you agree to a task, meeting, or responsibility, consider:

  • Does this align with my values?
  • Is this task a ‘big rock’ or a ‘small rock’?
  • Will this help me achieve my long-term goals?

It’s okay to decline opportunities that don’t align with your path. By mastering the art of saying “no” to the wrong things, you inherently say “yes” to what truly matters.


Being productive is more than just checking items off a list—it’s about ensuring each check aligns with your greater purpose. By defining your values, understanding prioritization, embracing mental clarity through meditation, and mastering the art of refusal, you’ll be on your way to achieving meaningful productivity. Remember, it’s not about doing more; it’s about doing what’s right for you.

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